You are only competing with yourself

by nah1108

Think you’re good at guitar??  Maybe you’ve spent a really long time practicing and have gotten pretty good at it.  Cool.  Here’s a video of an 8 year old kid playing better than you are Does that depress you?  It shouldn’t.

The world has gotten smaller.  The internet has allowed us to look into the lives and talents of people millions of miles away.  No matter how good you are at something, there is most likely somebody in the world that is better than you are. This is not a bad thing, but it does bring to light an important aspect of our minds.  We tend to compare ourselves to the people around us.  And even worse, we compare ourselves up instead of down, meaning we tend to think of the people that are better, faster, stronger, richer, and better looking than we are instead of all of the people that have it worse.  This is why money tends to only buy short-term happiness, before people are looking for their next pay day.  Don’t get me wrong, it’s good for you to have ambition, but here’s the thing:

The only person that you should be comparing yourself with is yourself, yesterday.

How do you compare with yourself one month ago?  How about one year ago?  Are you trending upwards, or downwards?  This is all that matters.  Confucius said “it does not matter how slow you go, so long as you do not stop”.  This is the heart of it.  If you constantly compare yourself to others, you will paralyze yourself trying to be better than everyone until you give up on improving entirely.  The important thing is to constantly be making small, incremental changes in your own life for the positive.  Are you jealous of a guy that can do 200 pushups?  Start doing 5 pushups a day.  Wish you had a million dollars? Buy something low and sell it for a 10 dollar profit.  Scared of talking to girls?  Start by asking her the time.  A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.  How do you eat an elephant?  One bite at a time.  You get the idea.  Make a log if you have to.  Where are you today?  Where do you want to be in a year?  What is a small action that you can take today to make that happen?  Good, now go do it.